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Inner Work

Changing The World By Changing Myself First

An Interview With Tan Hwee-Meng, Director Of The School Of Inner Work

What is Inner Work?

In the broadest sense of the word, Inner Work can be applied to any transformational work that we do to express our highest qualities such as love, power, strength, will, understanding, peace and patience.

I remember one of my teachers’ remarking that if a wise sage were to tell him that doing headstands whilst singing the national anthem for a year would make him wise, he would gladly do it. Well, if that process were to transform me into a wise person, I would consider it to be a form of inner work!

Inner Work is the inner growth from being a childish egocentric personality to being a spiritually mature adult. Each of us must consciously choose to embark on this path of awakening. No one can take this journey for us. NO ONE! Each of us must make our own commitment to manifest our personal best. I urge each of us to take this leap.

We are living in a time of the most extensive and rapid change in human history. What we do with our lives can make a difference as to whether our planet grow or die. More than ever, we need to bring forth our inner gifts and strengths to create a better world.

You use the term, spiritually mature adult?  Can you explain what that means?

You can split the term into 2 concepts; a spiritual adult and a mature adult.

Let us talk about a mature adult.  We erroneously assume that just because our physical bodies have grown to full maturity that our psychological self is also mature.  This is rarely the case.  Having an adult body is no guarantee that we have an adult mind, adult emotions and adult behaviors.   Unless we do the inner work to grow psychologically, many of us still have incredibly childish responses to life or we act like immature teenagers.  For instance, you may have met adults who throw tantrums, sulk or throw things on the ground when they don’t get their way.  That may be age-appropriate behavior for a 2 year old but it is an immature reaction to not having your own way.

Immature patterns of behavior sabotage your chance of personal happiness and success in life.  So, if you cannot cope with life effectively, if you are unable to create intimacy in relationships, if you do not know how to pursue your dreams and goals, or if you are overwhelmed by your negative emotions like low self-esteem, anger, jealousy and hatred, I recommend that you do the inner work to grow psychologically into a healthy, functional and mature adult. Personal growth programs like inner child healing, communication skills, assertiveness training, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), motivational programs, relationship counseling, or any program that teaches you self-responsibility and self-esteem are appropriate types of inner work.  I also really recommend the book, How to be An Adult by David Richo.

I want to share one of the most useful advice I have ever received.  Whatever problem in life you are facing now, whether it is financial, sexual, relationship, career, life direction or parenting, you are not alone.  Someone else on this planet has met with the same problem and has dealt with it effectively.  Reach out and ask for help.  Be willing to learn and grow.  One of the most erroneous beliefs that holds you back in life is when you think you are the only one with your problems.  YOU ARE NOT.

So, what about spiritual adult?

This part of you has to do with the mystery of your being.  Who are you before you are born?  Who are you after you have died?  What is the meaning of life?

In this path of inner work that I teach, there is recognition that we are spiritual beings living in a human body.  Who we are is not just our human personality.  We are spiritual beings as well.

If we see ourselves as only the ego personality in a human body, it is hard to cope with the fundamentals of human existence such as birth, illness and death.  In life, there is always suffering.  We must find some way or some practice that help us transcend our human existence and our limited identification with the human body.   Spiritual practices and spiritual studies are an integral part of inner work because they help remind us of the deeper dimension of our being – our spiritual nature.  Our spiritual nature is in fact who we really are.

To be a spiritually mature adult is to walk between 2 worlds, the world of heaven and earth?

Yes.  We recognize our inner divinity as well as honor our human incarnation.  In the school, 2 sets of skills are taught.  The first deals with how to live on this earth plane and the other helps us connect more deeply with our spiritual being.  Both sets of skills are essential to reclaim our wholeness.

Can you name and recommend any particular form of inner work? 

In today’s world, we are very blessed to have access to such a broad and deep range of Inner Work, drawn from many modern and ancient masters from around the world.

There are psychotherapeutic approaches such as Gestalt therapy, spiritual approaches such as the yogic path or meditation, body-centered approaches such as Core Energetics, energetic approaches such as breathwork…   the list is endless.

In the School of Inner Work, I have gathered tools and resources from many disciplines and schools of thought that I have found effective for healing and transformation.  However, it does not really matter what kind of inner work you do as long as you have a practice or a discipline that helps you become a better and freer person in life.

Just watch your process.  Do you feel your life and yourself opening up more and more?  If that form of inner work is right for you, there will be a sense of expansion, of being freer and lighter over time.  However if your practice is causing you to be more judgmental and  rigid and you have a sense of contracting more deeply into fear and paranoia, you may wish to check if that practice is still right for you.

For example, meditation is a great inner work practice.  I have seen some meditators that have meditated for decades and instead of becoming more spacious and at peace with life, they have unresolved anger and hatred in their relationships. Another great inner work practice is to see a therapist to heal your relationships with your family of origin. However, if you have spent 15 years dealing with your childhood issues and your life is still deeply overshadowed by your relationship with your Mother, then, you may want to consider changing your inner work practice or adding another type of practice such as forgiveness practice.

There are so many forms of Inner Work to cater for the many different temperaments as well as stages of inner development.  It is crucial to understand that you may need different types of inner work at different stages in your life.  You really need to develop your own path and not to copy anyone else.

Ultimately, inner work is about becoming a fully conscious and awake human being.  Whatever discipline takes you into a deeper place of peace, inner knowing, wisdom and open-heartedness is great. Whatever helps you manifest your highest potential in this life is wonderful.

 

How has inner work changed your life? 

Inner Work has made me who I am today.    Let me share one example.

Doing inner work has helped me to live more fully and more authentically in my life.  When I began my inner journey, I wanted to run away from my life.  I was always fantasizing I was someone else or I was somewhere else.  I felt that my life was a total disappointment; mediocre and boring.  I was also a bitter person, constantly wishing that my life could have been different.

After travelling thousands of miles to study with spiritual teachers, wise masters and anyone who has any answer on how to transform myself, this long journey has led me back home to myself.  Letting go of the need to be somebody else, go someplace else and have something else have helped me to embrace my life more fully.  The inner knowing that who I am right now is okay and where I am in my journey is perfect for me right now, has calmed a lot of my inner struggles and demons. Even the struggles and the difficult times are meant to be and so, I can stop trying so hard to fight myself and my process. I have greater inner peace.

I can relax more deeply into my life and I delight in the preciousness of each moment.  The joy of seeing someone I love sitting across me, the warmth of the sun at the back of my neck, the smell of freshly baked bread and the singing of birds – how rich and exquisite the ordinary moments of life are. I sometimes laugh because I had to travel half way across the world and live half my life to learn this lesson.

Another wonderful gift of Inner Work has been to the opening and awakening of my heart.  It has become much easier for me to express my deepest feelings for people that I care about and to have the courage to love others and myself.  I have slowly learned that people are what matters most, not success, fame or fortune.

I have just become a kinder, more patient and understanding person. Perhaps many people would think, “What is the big deal?”  But these values are important to me, or rather, they have become important to me. Being kind, patient and understanding may not bring huge recognition in our culture but guess what? I am a happier person because of these qualities.

 

What inspired you to create the School of Inner Work? 

Our traditional way of schooling may prepare us well for our careers but it is completely inadequate to prepare us for life.  There is a real need for alternative lifelong education if we really want to take responsibility for our own happiness and wellbeing.

My own joy and contentment have been the fruits of a commitment to lifelong learning with personal and spiritual growth teachers.  I am enormously grateful for their wisdom and love.  I wanted to share what has excited me and what has worked for me, hoping that someone else may find what I have learned to be useful.

My vision is to create an environment where people could feel safe and supported to be true to themselves and at the same time, learn skills to create a life that is in alignment with their deepest values and most secret dreams.

When I was young, I was very moved by this poem.

When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits,
I dreamed of changing the world;
As I grew older and wiser, I realized the world would not change.
And I decided to shorten my sights somewhat
and change only my country.
But it too seemed immovable.

As I entered my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt,
I sought to change only my family, those closest to me,
but alas they would have none of it.

And now I lie on my death bed
And realize (perhaps for the first time) that
if only I’d changed myself first,
then by example, I may have influenced my family
and with their encouragement and support
I may have bettered my country,
and who knows I may have changed the world.

Written on the tomb of an Anglican Bishop

I really believe that if you want to make a difference in the world, it is important to start with yourself first.  Change yourself first.  Work on yourself first.  I have practiced this principle over 2 decades now and my life has really changed.  I have more loving relationships and I am able to be a source of support for many people.

Can we do inner work by ourselves? 

That really depends on where you are in your development.  Unless you are enlightened, I think, it is better to work on yourself in the company of others.  Spiritual teachers have always taught the value of spiritual brotherhood and sisterhood.

Firstly, a lot of our pain, shame and self-hatred originated in relationship to other people.  Most of us were shamed by our elders in the process of growing up.  We may have been judged, ridiculed or shamed for being who we are.  It is important to heal in the non-judgemental and loving eyes of another human being.

Let me give you an example.  One of my clients had a very lively, curious and passionate personality.  As a child, she was told that girls should not laugh so loud, girls should not ask too many questions and girls should be shy.  This part of her that is full of curiosity and energy about life felt so ashamed and went into hiding.  She carried the belief that there was something unfeminine and unattractive about herself for a long time.  She had to keep holding back her natural aliveness and her adventurous personality.  In an inner work process, I told her that it was okay to laugh out loud and to be bold and adventurous.  A huge relief went through her body.  It was a homecoming.  A lost part of her came home to herself.

Secondly, it is easy to delude ourselves about our progress. We are often the last person to see our faults and dysfunctional patterns.  It is something like the saying that a fish cannot see the ocean it lives in. It is hard to see ourselves. That is why working with another person or a group of people is important, especially in the early stages of inner work.

Also, humans tend to progress faster with support.  There is a great story about Hakuin, a great Zen master most famous for his riddle, “What is the sound of one hand clapping?” His friend and he pledged to meditate 7 days and 7 nights without sleep. So great were their commitment to enlightenment.  They vowed that should one of them sleep, the other will hit the sleeping one with a great, big stick! Well, neither one had the occasion to reach for that stick.  They both fulfilled their commitment.  This is the value of community.

Is there anything we can do to start our inner work right now? 

Absolutely.  Self-reflection is an important skill to cultivate.  Most of us just move through life.  If you want a life that matters to you, if you want to make a difference in your life, you must pause and review your life periodically.  Otherwise, we are no better than machines running on automatic conditioning and behavior.  We all long to have a better life but unless we learn to study and know ourselves, we do not even know what parts of us need changing. Honesty with the self is a prerequisite to growth.  There is a great exercise called Life Review from the School of Inner Work that I want to share.  Just as you may go for health check ups or send your car in for a tune up, well, this is the check up for your life, to see if your life is going where you want it to go.  It is a great idea to do this exercise periodically.
Honor yourself by setting aside some time for your life.  You are following the footsteps of the wise ones in our culture who have valued the benefits that come from contemplation.

THE LIFE REVIEW EXERCISE

This is an opportunity to deepen your reflection on your life. This is not an intellectual exercise.  Nor is this about your aspirations, hopes and dreams.  This is an opportunity for you to reflect on your life AS YOU HAVE LIVED IT, clearly and honestly.  It is important to find a comfortable, quiet and private place to sit.  Let your mind relax and use this time to connect to your deepest thoughts and feelings.  Write your answers in a private journal which is for your eyes only. Tell yourself the truth with great compassion.  Truth is painful and liberating at the same time.  Always have great compassion for yourself when you embark on your own inner work.

  • How old are you?     What do you look like?   How do you feel about your body?
  • Where do you live?  Who do you live with?
  • What is happening in your life right now? 
  • How do you spend most of your time?
  • What are your predominant feelings?   Fears?  Sadness?  Anger? Worries?  Happiness?
  • What are your joys and pleasures?   What do you take delight in?
  • What are your relationships like with your family and friends?
  • What would you like to ask forgiveness for?  Who do you need to forgive? 
  • What have been your successes?  Which accomplishments would you be most proud? 
  • What have been your failures? What are your deepest heartaches?   Your regrets and disappointments? 
  • What are your strengths and weaknesses?
  • What lessons have you learned?  What lessons have you failed in learning? 
  • What is your relationship to your God/Spirit/Religion?
  • As you reflect on your life, what is most important to you?
  • What is your gift to your family, your community, this world?
    • If you were to die right now;
    • What would you like to be most remembered for?
    • What final message would you leave for those who would gather to remember you?
    • If you had your life to live all over again, would anything be different? 

 

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内在省修疗程

内在省修

改变世界之前,先改变自己

专访内在省修学苑苑长陈慧敏
翻译:洪美

 

什么是内在省修?

广义而言,凡是可以让心灵昇华,让我们体现最高层素质如爱、动力、力量、意志力、谅解、安详和耐心的任何方式,都可以称为内在省修。

我记得一位老师说过:如果有哪一位睿智的圣人告诉他,倒立唱国歌一整年就可以长智慧,那他会很乐意奉行。如果这样做可以让我变成一个更有智慧的人,我认为那也是一种内在省修。

内在省修是一种内心的成长,它把我们从一个以自我为中心的,带着孩子气的人,转化为具有高灵性的成熟大人。我们都得有意识地踏上这个觉醒之旅,没有人可以代替我们做这份工作,没有人任何人可以这么做!每一个人都得下功夫展露自己最美好的特质。我诚邀诸位迈上这个探索内心之旅。

我们在这个时代所面临的改变,是人类史上空前巨大,也空前迅速的。我们怎么选择我们的生活方式,就会怎么会影响地球的存亡。我们必须比以往更用心地展现内心的珍宝和力量,以创造更美好的世界。

 

你提到高灵性的成熟大人,请问那是什么意思?

你可以把这个词分成两个概念:一个高灵性的成人和一个成熟的成人。
先说成熟的成人吧。我们错误地以为,当我们的身体发育到成人的体型时,我们的心理也随着成长,其实这是很少见的情况。拥有成人的身体,不见得就具有成人的心智、成人的情绪和成人的行为。除非我们做内在省修,否则我们之中,大多数的人仍旧有不可思议的孩子气反应,或者会像个不成熟的少年般地行事。比方说,你应该看过一些成年人在不顺心的时候乱发脾气、生闷气或者摔东西吧。对一个两岁的稚童来说,这样的行为是可以理解的;但是当事情不如你意的时候,你采取这样的反应就是不成熟的。

不成熟的行为会破坏你的个人幸福和成功。所以,如果你无法好好应付生活;如果你无法创造亲密关系;如果你不知道该如何追随你的梦想和目标;或者你被自己的负面情绪,如低自尊、愤怒、妒忌和恨意所淹没,那我建议你做内在省修,以便让自己的心智成长,成为一个健康、有用和成熟的成人。一些帮助个人成长的工作,例如康复内心小孩、沟通技巧、加强果断能力的训练、神经语言学、激励课程、人际关系的谘商工作、教导你为自己负责,或者加强你的自信心的任何工作,都是恰当的内在省修。我极力推荐你阅读David Richo所著的 How to be An Adult (华文版本:回归真我)。

我要与你分享我这辈子所领受的最好教诲之一:无论你现在面对什么问题——无论是经济、性爱、人际关系、事业、生活目标,或者亲子问题——都不是你独有的问题。在这个星球上,早已有人面对同样问题,而且圆满地解决了。你可以要求他人的援助,虚心地学习和成长。让你在人生道路上裹足不前的最大错误观念之一就是:你以为所面对的是你独有的问题。不是的!

 

那怎么样才算是高灵性的成人呢?

这关系到你那玄妙的本质。出生之前,你是谁?过世之后,你是谁?生命的意义是什么?
我所教导的内在省修,认可我们都是拥有人身的高等灵。我们并不只是拥有世俗人格的人,我们都具有高灵性。
如果我们把自己仅仅看成是拥有人身的、在世俗的人格里打滚的人,那我们在处理生老病死的问题时,就会面对很大的困难。人生难免有磨难,我们需要通过一些方法或者修行来帮助自己超越人身和世俗人格的局限。灵修和灵性学习是内在省修重要的一环,它们提醒我们:我们具有深邃的本质——我们的灵性。

 

高灵性的成人是否游走于灵性世界和世俗世界之间?

是的,我们认可内在的神性,也接纳我们的人身。在内在省修学苑中,我们教导两种法门:第一种教导我们更好地在世间生活;第二种帮助我们接上内在深层的灵性。两者都能帮助我们恢复圆满的本质。

 

你是否可推荐一种内在省修的形式?

在现今的世界里,我们是很有福报的,我们可以接触到古今中外各大师所传授的形形色色的内在省修方法。

比如属于心理治疗的格式塔治疗法;属于灵修方式的瑜伽修行或冥想;属于身体疗愈方式的核心能量治疗;属于能量治疗方式的呼吸治疗。。。等等,无法尽录。

在内在省修学苑,我集合了多个学派的方法和资源,这些都是我认为能够有效地帮助我们康复和提升的法门。然而,采用哪一门的内在省修方式并不重要,最重要的是你有一个法门让你成为一个更好、更自在的人。

记得观察自己的学习过程:你是否觉得人生和自己越来越开放?如果你觉得自己的心境更宽阔、觉得自己比以往更自在、更轻安的话,那你所修行的内在工作是适合你的。但是,如果你所学习的法门使得你更爱批判、更刻板、更畏缩、更恐惧和更多疑的话,那你或许需要审查一下这个法门是否适合你。

举个例子,冥想是很好的内在工作,但是,我看过一些花了数十年冥想的人,心境并没有变得更宽阔与平和,相反的,他们内心积压着未化解的怒气,人际关系中仍存在着嗔恨。另外一种很好的内在省修工作是找治疗师康复你和原生家庭之间的关系。但是,如果你花了15年的时间处理你的童年创伤,而你和母亲的关系始终影响着你的生活的各个层面的话,你或许需要换一种内在省修方式,或者在现有的内在省修工作中添加别的法门,例如学习原谅。

形形色色的内在省修,适合不同性情的人,以及不同阶段的内在发展。重点是你得知道,在不同的人生阶段,你需要不同的内在省修工作。你确实需要揣摩出自己的学习之旅,而不是模仿任何人的学习方式。

内在工作的终极目标是让你成为一个全然醒觉和清明的人。任何能够帮助你找到内心深处的平和、觉知、智慧和开放心识的,就是了不起的法门;任何能够帮助你在人生中发挥最大潜能的,就是美好的法门。

 

内在省修工作如何改变了你的生命?

内在省修工作让我成为今天的我。让我举个例子:

内在省修工作让我更全然和更诚实地生活。刚踏上我的内在之旅时,我想要逃离我的生活。我总是在幻想自己成为另一个人,或者在另外一个地方。我觉得自己的人生一无是处、平庸和乏味。我总是愤愤不平,总是觉得自己应该有不一样的人生。

我上求下索,翻山越岭地向灵性导师、智者以及任何能够转化我的人学习,这条漫长的学习之旅最终接引我回归到自己。我放下了要成为另一个人,以及要拥有另一样东西的欲望。因为放下,我能够更全然地拥抱自己的人生。当我内心了了分明地知道当下的我是OK的,知道我所处的是现阶段最理想的情况,我的内心因此少了许多挣扎,内在的恶魔因此得到安抚。即便是在挣扎,即便是处于困难阶段,我也知道那是我需要的,所以我不再苦苦抗拒,内心因此更加平静。

我对人生更放心了。每一个珍贵的片刻,让我感到欣喜。当我看着心爱的人坐在面前,当我感觉到温暖的阳光洒在颈背,当我闻到刚出炉的面包香气,当我听到小鸟的啁啾,这一切,都让我喜悦。生命中的平常时光,原来可以如此丰富和精致。有时候,想到自己竟然得耗上半个人生,跋涉半个地球来学习这个道理,我不禁失笑。

内在省修所带给我的另一份珍贵礼物是:我的心更开阔,更醒觉了。我现在更能够向我所珍爱的人表达内心最深处的感受,更有勇气爱他人和爱自己。我逐渐了解到,“人”才是最珍贵的,而不是成功和名利。

我变得更善良,更有耐心和更有同理心。或许有些人会说:“这有什么了不起的?”然而,对我而言,这些特质是重要的,或者说,这些特质变得重要了。我们的文化或许不看重善良,耐心和同理心,但是你知道吗?我因为这些特质而变得更快乐了。

 

是什么启发了你创办内在省修学苑?

传统的学校或许能帮助我们为就业做好准备,但是在应付生活方面的教导却严重不足。如果我们愿意为自己的快乐和幸福负责的话,我们确实需要另一种终生教育。

我决心用一辈子的时间向私人老师和灵性导师学习,学习的成果正是我的喜悦和满足感的泉源。对于这些老师的智慧和爱心,我万分感激。我愿意分享这些让我感到兴奋,让我觉得受用无穷的功课,希望其他人也从我的分享中受惠。

我的愿景是:创造一个环境让学员可以安心地,在觉得自己得到支持的情况下坦诚地面对自己;同时,也让学员学习一些技巧,创造一个与自己最重要的价值观和最秘密的梦想互相契合的人生。

我年轻的时候,被这首诗深深感动。

年少时候,我自由自在,想象力无疆界,
我梦想着改变世界;
长大后,我比较世故了,我发现世界是不会改变的。
我决定缩小范围,只要改变国家就够了。
然而国家也无从改变。

暮年时候,我作出最后的,绝望的努力,
我尝试改变家庭,改变最亲近的人。
然而,天啊,他们无动于衷。
现在,我行将就木,
我发现(或许是头一遭)如果我先改变自己,
我的榜样或许能影响我的家庭,
在他们的鼓励和支持下,
我或许能使国家变得更美好,

谁知道呢,我或许因此而改变了世界。
~一位圣公会主教的墓志铭

我确实相信,如果你要改变世界,最重要的是从自己开始,先改变自己,先在自己身上下功夫。二十多年来,我奉行这个原则,我的人生真的改变了。我拥有了更多美好的人际关系,我能够为许多人伸出援手。

 

内在省修可以自修吗?

那得取决于你是处在什么进展阶段。除非你已经开悟,否则在旁人的陪伴下做内在省修还是比较理想的。灵性导师时常强调和灵性师兄师姐一起学习的重要性。

首先,我们的大多数创伤、羞辱感和自我厌恶感源自于我们的人际关系。我们之中,有许多人在成长的过程中,受到年长者的羞辱。我们或许受到批判、奚落和羞辱。所以,在一个不带批判,充满爱心的人面前疗愈是很重要的。

让我举个例子,我的其中一个个案生性活泼、充满好奇心和热情。年幼时,身边的人告诉她,女孩子不应该放声欢笑,不应该发问太多问题,女孩子应该显得腼腆。她对自己个性中的好奇心和活泼能量感到可耻,所以把它们深藏起来。多年以来,她相信自己是不够女性化,而且不够吸引人的。她得不断抑制自己的活力和冒险精神。在一个内在省修的过程中,我告诉她,放声欢笑,以及行事大胆和冒险精神是OK的。她感到如释重负。这是她的回归,她放弃的那个自我,回归到她的身心。

其次,对于自己的成长,我们擅于自欺。我们总是那个最后发现自己的过失和缺点的人,这真是当局者迷,我们难以看到自己。所以,同一个伙伴或者一群人一起做内在省修的工作是很重要的,在开始的阶段,这尤其重要。

此外,在互助的情况下,我们可以进步得比较快。有一个有关白隐慧鹤禅师的故事极具意义,他最为人津津乐道的一个公案是:“一个人单掌能发出什么声音?”他和他的朋友决心用七天七夜的时间,不眠不休地来参禅。他们寻求开悟的精神无比坚定,他们誓言,只要其中一人打瞌睡,另一人就可以用粗棒子狠狠地打他。结果,粗棒子根本没派上用场,因为他们都坚守着自己的誓言。这就是同修之间互助的可贵之处。

 

我们可以做些什么来马上进行内在省修的工作吗?

当然可以。自我省思是一种很值得我们去培养的技巧。我们之中,大多数的人都被生活牵着走。如果你希望生活有意义,如果你希望改变生活,你需要定时停下脚步,检视自己的生活。否则,你会像一部机器一样,不由自主地被固定的模式和行为所操纵。每个人都盼望有一个更美好的生活,然而,除非我们学习了解和认识自己,否则,我们根本不知道自己有什么地方需要改变。对自己诚实,是成长的首要条件。在内在省修学苑中,我会跟大家分享一个很棒的方法–检视生命。就像你去做身体检查,或者把车子送去维修,检视生命就是对生命的一种检查,它能够帮助你了解你是否根据内心的渴望去生活。定时作生命检视是很重要的。
为自己拨出时间作生命检视,是对自己的一种敬重。我们的先贤很重视他们在沉思中所得到的智慧,我们可以向他们学习。

 

检视生命的练习:

这个练习能帮助你深思。这不是一个智力练习,也跟你的志愿、希望和梦想无关。这是一个机会,让你清清楚楚地,老老实实地省思你正在经历的生活。好好地找一个舒适,宁静和不受干扰的地方坐下来,放松你的精神,让自己联系上内心最深层的思维和感受。把答案写在只有自己能阅读的私人笔记本中。带着慈悲心,把实相告诉自己。实相是令人痛苦的,却能够释放我们。当你走上内在的探索之旅时,记得对自己怀着慈悲心。

  • 你今年几?你的相如何?你自己的身体有什么感受?
  • 你住在哪儿?你和住在一儿?
  • 你目前的生活生了什么事?
  • 你大部分的时间在做些什么?
  • 你最著的情是什么?恐惧?哀怒?担?快
  • 什么事情得喜悦和愉快?你喜做些什么?
  • 你和家人以及朋友的关系如何?
  • 有什么事情是你需要求原的?你需要原什么人?
  • 你成功的地方在哪里?有什么成就是最能够让你引以傲的?
  • 你失的地方在哪里?什么事情最心?有什么是你得后悔和失望的?
  • 你的强处和弱点是什么?
  • 你学些了什么功?有哪些功是你没学会的?
  • 你与上帝/神明/灵性/宗教的关系如何?
  • 省思你的生命,什么西你最重要?
  • 你的家庭、社群和世界来了什么礼物?
  • 如果你在就死亡,
  • 你希望人怀念你的是什么?
  • 对于那些追悼你的人,你有什么最后的话要对他们说
  • 如果你再活一次,你希望你的人生有什么不一

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