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Say Goodbye to Fear, Hatred and Sadness

Qiu Lihui

I learnt about EFT tapping therapy (tapping acupoints) at a Lapis Lazuli Light workshop taught by Dr Lai in Thailand in 2005. EFT removes accumulated negative emotions and I found it effective.

Having been exposed to Buddhist and Lapis Lazuli Light teachings for many years, I know that taming greed, anger and fear is very important. Although I am becoming clearer on my own emotional ups and downs, I also know that happiness, pain and sorrow do not come from outside. They are our own reactions to external situations.

When I look back at the person I was a decade ago, I see an improvement in my negative reactions when facing similar situations. I am grateful to all the teachers and companions along the way who helped me become who I am today.

Living in this modern age, the greater the changes in the outside world, the more trials we face. From long-standing habits, all the seeds of negative emotions accumulated from our numerous past lives become so powerful that, sometimes, we have uncontrolled immediate responses.

Dr Mitchell May said that we are burdened by accumulated emotions. Dr Lai said that these negative emotions come from memories where we were hurt. These negative reactions are reminders that we need to heal from emotional wounds. She has been constantly learning and teaching in the hope that we can be released from physical and mental suffering.

Tapping Acupuncture Points to Ease Negative Emotions

After the trip in Thailand, I accompanied Dr Lai to Chengdu in China where she held the workshop “Holding Hands to Create A New Century of Ecological Health” at which she also taught methods to release emotions.

After the workshop, we went to pay tribute to Leshan Giant Buddha. This millennium-old sculpture is majestic. The awe-inspiring Buddha originated from the compassion of a monk who could not bear to see shipping vessels capsizing frequently nearby in the turbulent waters. So he vowed to carve a big Buddha Statue to protect the shipping vessels.

A classmate told us she was so sad that she could not sleep due to some conflict with her husband. Later, she remembered the EFT method (see the above illustration). While tapping, she recited; “Although my husband and I have different opinions and the way he speaks makes me very sad, I still deeply love myself and support myself.” She tapped 7 to 10 times at each acupuncture point. With three rounds of tapping, her emotions were released. She exclaimed that it was so amazing! In the past, she would have sulked for a very long time.

So, if you feel hurt or wronged, give this a try. When I was leaving Chengdu, I went to the market and bought a lot of fruits. When Dr Lai saw that, she told me that in my past lives, I probably went through an era of famine. Hence, I was always worried there was not enough to eat and I would always buy a huge pile of food. I replied: “I am worried about you! I am afraid that you might get hungry on the plane.” You have to transit and fly over 30 hours before arriving in USA.”

Later, when I thought about it, what Dr Lai said made sense. I would unintentionally buy a lot of food and store them in the refrigerator. There was not much food choices at the market as it was very early, so I bought whatever I saw although the energy of some food was not high. Later, at the airport, Dr Lai found very tiny oranges that were very sweet.

I decided to start releasing my memory. So I tapped while reciting: “Although I am worried my old grandmother might be hungry on the journey (through previous hypnosis, I knew that Dr Lai was my grandmother over 1,300 years ago), I believe she is very lucky and has all the blessings of Buddhas, Bodhisattvas and Dharma Protectors. I do not need to worry about her at all.” It was so amazing! After I finished tapping, all my worries were completely gone.

After my return to Taiwan, my mother visited and told me that my younger brother had gone to Southeast Asia with a friend, intending to invest in the region. My whole body tensed up immediately. My mind went back to more than ten years ago, when my brother mortgaged the house to invest in Southeast Asia and the investment failed. We were repaying the loan for the last few years and only managed to finally pay it off recently.

The thought immediately flashed through my mind to ask my mother to hide the house ownership titles and ask my brother’s wife to stop my brother at all costs.

But my next thought was: “How can I use past experience to ascertain my brother’s future?” This fear was from my “uncleared” past experience. I decided to clean it. I tapped and recited: “Although I am afraid that my brother would invest in Southeast Asia and might end up failing again, I believe that whether he succeeds or fails, it is his life experience and evolution. I respect his decision and wish that he achieves spiritual growth through this.”

If I tried every means to stop him, it would only lead to quarrels and would not change his decision. And the energy of my fear would unhelpfully and harmfully be directed at him. But if I am calm, perhaps through careful analysis, I could gave him the most correct advice. No matter what, after the tapping, I felt the release and was extremely relaxed.

According to Buddha’s teachings, we reap what we sow. What I should be reminding my brother is that whatever he plants, do not worry about the result. Our past experiences create the feelings we have of this world. So, the way everyone perceives social phenomena, workplace, family and all that happens, are personal memories and feelings from the past, resulting in different reactions in the cycle of reincarnation.

What I learnt has helped me to release negative emotions using convincing words whilst tapping the acupuncture points. For example, sometimes I am afraid that people and things I possess will change or I may lose them. So as I tap and chant: “All things are born from karma and will die from karma. When I leave this world, I will not be able to bring along any possession. Tomorrow, I do not know if I will still exist. So, why be unable to let go? All things are like a dream, illusion, bubble and shadow.” Every time after I finish tapping, I feel the weight of importance attached to these people and things lessening.

The seeds planted in the mind can mature from time to time and can strengthen at any time due to our feelings in each moment. That is why it is very important to remove the seeds of negativity. With this great EFT method, when we are aware of negative thoughts arising, we can destroy them one by one. I hope that all of us can release our troubles soon. Let us release our negative emotions and create the infinite joy of life!

The original Chinese article is published in the May 2015 issue of Lapis Lazuli Light magazine and is accessible online at: http://www.lapislazuli.org/tw/index.php?p=20050512.html